It can be easy to prioritise others before yourself. That may be due to having children, being a carer for a loved one or through desperately trying to mange work/life balance. Its hard to say no sometimes and put your needs first, says person-centred counsellor, Hannah Bolton.

"First things first you are the top priority! If we are being honest with ourselves, we cannot please everyone. We can spend a lot of time going out of our way to make others happy putting our own needs on the back burner," says Hannah.

"So much energy can be given into trying to be well received or liked rather than being true to yourself. If you are not accepted for who you are it doesn’t mean you need to change.

"Everyone has their own unique values, thoughts, and opinions. We will not see eye to eye with everyone. Trying to understand why someone doesn’t like or accept you can be truly exhausting. Its easier said than done but try not to think about why someone doesn’t like you and focus on the people who do accept you for who you are."

We can never truly understand where another person is coming from. We can only focus on ourselves. There's no need to put a front on for other people, be yourself no matter who you are with.

"If we don’t love ourselves it's natural to want to seek validation from others to help raise our self-confidence. The best way to increase your self-esteem is to reflect upon yourself.

"Remind yourself of the all the things that you do like about you and think about all the things you are good at. Remember we all human, no person is perfect.

"Everyone makes mistakes or errors in judgement. This does not mean you are a bad person or that you need to self-assassinate.

"That phrase we are our worst enemy can be so true. If you find yourself doing this, try to be kind to yourself and practice in self care. Spend time with people who love you for who you are and are there to pick you up when you aren’t feeling at your best."

You are human and you can only do so much - please be kind to yourself where you can.

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You can contact Hannah by visiting her website, calling her on: 07768198184, or emailing: [email protected]. 

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